Wyley Simpson, 28, who gave to his son and named him Rowan has said he suffered ridicule and abuse by strangers on an almost daily basis and would not like to face it all again
Being a parent is one of the most life-altering experiences. For Wyley Simpson, 28, who got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy, the journey was much more than that. Wyley was born as a girl named Whitney and had already started his transition to becoming a man. He had been taking hormone pills and the picture of a bearded Wyley with a baby bump is something that has caught the world's attention. What has been described as an 'accidental pregnancy' took place during this time that messed up his head at first, reports the Daily Mail. Wyley felt he was not ready to give birth and start a family with his fiancé, Stephen Gaeth, 28. When he finally decided to go ahead with the pregnancy, he suffered daily abuse from strangers and was a subject of ridicule almost every day during his 6-month-long pregnancy. However, parenthood became a new and cherished goal. He did not falter since he knew the reward at the end of the strenuous ordeal was going to be all worth it. Wyley, however, admits he would probably not go through pregnancy again since the emotional trauma and abuse could sometimes get out of hand. Wyley and his partner gave birth to a healthy 7lb boy via an emergency C-section late last year and they can't stop gushing about their new status as parents.
The couple named their son, Rowan. The world, however, is divided about the news of a transman giving birth, some loathing the couple while others praising Wyley and his partner for their bravery. Wyley spoke about the emotional rollercoaster ride and turmoil that she went through during his pregnancy and following the birth of his child. He was obviously worried about the consequences it entailed and the responsibilities thereafter.
After the birth of their child, the couple is living a happy new life and have just celebrated their son turning six months old. They have revealed the details of their journey, chronicling the struggle of transman's journey of pregnancy and parenthood. The couple story is also subject of a reality series called Extreme Love. According to a report in the Mirror, Wyley said, “It’s not every day that someone sees a pregnant man walking down the road, so we received a fair amount of abuse - I would be told that I'll never be a man, 'men don't carry babies' and everyone called me 'it'."
He further said, "I was already worried as this was my first pregnancy, but I was also nervous because I had to deal with a lot of stigma behind me being a pregnant man. But alongside receiving rude comments from other people, the pregnancy took a lot for me emotionally." He further added, “Having gone through the transitioning process since I was 21-years-old, having a physical baby bump was something so feminine that messed with my head. But it was all worth it to have Rowan and to become a father – I wouldn’t have changed a thing.”
Although grateful that he was able to carry his own child, Wyley said that he was only able to feel comfortable about becoming a father once Rowan was born. He said, “Once my physical bump had disappeared and I was able to take my hormones again, I felt good about everything. Myself and Stephan suddenly turned into a gay couple with a baby, as opposed to me being a pregnant man. And Rowan is amazing, he made all of the mental and physical pain completely worth it. Now myself and Stephan are just reveling in fatherhood and can’t wait to continue our journey as a family.”
About the possibility of having another child, Wyley said it was something that he would probably not do again, “I am looking to fully transition in the future, so the likelihood of having another child naturally is unlikely. It was a great feeling to be able to carry Rowan, feeling him kick and going to baby scans, but for me as a person, it isn’t something I can continue to do. I don’t see myself as any less of a man because of what happened, but I just do not identify in such a feminine way as to be pregnant – so it won’t be happening again. But I am glad that I got to go through something as amazing and natural as birthing my own child, it’s definitely made mine and Rowan’s bond so much closer.”